You’ve met someone and he’s a-m-a-z-i-n-g.
Good looking, charming, tall, all the things you’ve been searching for.
In your excitement of finally finding someone who fits the bill, suddenly you’re constantly checking their Facebook page to see what they’re up to.
Perhaps you clicked the ‘add as a friend’ button and are waiting desperately for him to accept your friend request.
What’s wrong with this picture?
You’re obsessed with a man who you have just met.
What’s the hurry?
Having met someone who you really like, and wish to know better, slow down, and enjoy being with him, without any pressure to make more of anything.
For instance, don’t start planning your wedding after the third date.
Don’t rush into bed, you’ll only regret it later on.
Don’t call his phone just to hear his voice on his voicemail. That’s stalking, and so creepy.
Let him make the first move. If he likes you as much as you hope, he’ll not waste time but will call you straight away.
Sex is not love.
Chances are, he may only want you for sex, and once he’s ‘had you’, he’ll be gone.
Some men are like that, I’m sad to say.
Take your time getting to know him. Your idea of him may not be the same as who he actually is in reality.
Only by taking a step back and assessing the relationship can you really see who he is, and whether you like him enough to learn more about him – or not.
About Robin Wright-Thurnley
Robin is an Associate Coach at Phoenix Relationship Coaching where he guides men towards achieving their dreams of lasting love.