It seemed easy to ask her out on a date but now the difficult part comes.
The first date.
The time to meet her arrives and panic sets in. Your palms are sweaty.
The clothes you were going to wear now no longer seem right, and your hair just looks all wrong.
What do you do?
First, chill out. Grab a drink and sip it slowly, and slow your breathing right down until you’re calm. Plug your phone into the charger while you get ready for your date.
Get your grooming done first. Brush your teeth, use mouthwash, give yourself a spritz of aftershave. If you have a beard, shampoo it to make sure its soft and smells fresh.
Wash the sweat out of your hair and use a light conditioner to tame it.
Next, you want to match your style to the venue – if it’s a casual place dress casually to look like you fit in. If it’s an exclusive restaurant pick out a fitted suit – jacket and tie.
Now go and select clothes you feel comfortable in, and which do not look too business-like. If the meeting place is a bar or Club you may want to skip the tie in favour of an open-necked shirt. Something which showcases your pecs and lats but doesn’t make you look like you’re Hercules on a date.
Get a manicure the day before if possible. Women notice everything about your hands, the size, cleanliness, and shape of your nails included.
When you’re dressed and confident you look great, head to the meeting place early – aim for an hour earlier than planned to allow for traffic delays and unexpected complications, like a lack of parking space at the bar or Club.
Relax, and be your authentic self. There’s enough pressure of being on a first date without the added stress of trying to be someone you are not.
Smile a lot, listen intently, and pay attention to her.
Then you can think about what to do on the second date.
About Robin Wright-Thurnley
Robin is an Associate Coach at Phoenix Relationship Coaching where he guides men towards achieving their dreams of lasting love.