Spring has sprung.
We are almost at the end of the third month of a New Year. How rigidly have you stuck to your resolutions to change, to get fit, or even to give up chocolate?
Chances are, the resolutions we all made back in early January had good intentions but may have now fallen by the wayside.
February 7 is, on average, the day when the majority of people who made New Year’s resolutions to change anything in their lives finally give up trying to do so.
A month past this date, it is safe to surmise you may have reverted to bad habits.
How can you launch the new and improved you onto the world without waiting until next January to make New Year’s resolutions which you may no doubt fail to adhere to; setting up a cycle of start and fail?
Just ask yourself a series of questions. Grab a pen and piece of paper, or open a new document file on your computer to begin. Write down the first response that comes to your mind.
1. If you had a magic wand, what would you change in your life by waving it? (write down THREE things you would change)
2. If you could change ONE thing in your life, what would you change? (only choose ONE thing)
3. Look at your answer to question two – what is preventing you from making that particular change, and what can you do about it NOW?
Change is difficult for many people. It scares some people to adjust from a mindset and lifestyle which has become a burden of unhappiness; often for a considerable length of time.
Fear of the unknown, and fear of failure when making changes in our lives can often hold us back from feeling overwhelming joy and happiness we know deep down is truly beneficial for us.
Take your health, for example. If you make poor food choices you may sail through life to the stage where you fool yourself that there aren’t any negative consequences of making poor food choices.
Then, the day arrives when your heart or body gives up, and you wind up in hospital after a serious illness linked back to your poor eating habits.
The most beneficial way to introduce change in your life is to take things extremely slowly, and to make an effort to take action, no matter how small, towards making the changes.
Focus on one aspect of your life to change at a time. Don’t take on too many at once to avoid being frustrated and giving up through disappointment with a lack of results.
Only when you are confident and satisfied you can maintain the changes, self-assuredly launch the new you onto the world.
About Robin Wright-Thurnley
Robin is an Associate Coach at Phoenix Relationship Coaching where he guides men towards achieving their dreams of lasting love.
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