You are not your friend, nor are they you.
Be unique, by being your true self.
Learn all about
- Who you are
- What your definition of love is
- What love means to you
Once you’ve done the inner work, you will recognise love in all its forms when it approaches you. The love of a friend, or something more intense.
Part of this incredible journey we have on Planet Earth involves interacting with amazing, fantastic people who all have experiences to share with us, and events which we can all learn from. Through your friends and social life you can often experience the pain and pleasure love will inflict upon you.
I know from experience how devastating the news of seeking a divorce can be to your close friends. The impact of the news of divorce affects people differently. The friend who you thought didn’t care about you is suddenly your primary form of support through the divorce process. Go figure.
It’s the same with getting married, whether it’s for the first time or the fifth time. Once you tell your closest friends you are getting married, there can be a division among them between those who fear the concept of marriage and those who embrace it with excitement.
Getting married shows your close friends and family that you are an adult with an incredibly serious emotional involvement with another person; who perhaps has not known you for as long as they have.
This is often the basis of their fear. Concern you may be making a mistake. The choice to marry is yours, not theirs to make and learn from. Even if it stings to do so.
Some friends can feel your mutual friendship is under threat now that you have taken a husband or wife. This does not have to be the case if both sides learn to compromise.
What can you do to find love today?
Get out of the house. Go roller blading. Wear all the safety gear and lose your inhibitions.
The scary moment when you fall onto your ass, the guy from the coffee shop you have had your eyes on may suddenly appear and scoop you up. If you take risks, you may pleasantly surprise yourself with what you can achieve.
Be unique. Examine your core values and ask what you are looking for in a partner.
When you are centred and in the full knowledge of your core values, you’ll be even more ready to find and keep love which nourishes and endures.
How you can show your love for another person without it costing the earth or bankrupting your emotional bank account.
About Robin Wright-Thurnley
Robin is an Associate Coach at Phoenix Relationship Coaching where he guides men towards achieving their dreams of lasting love.